Broadwaybabyto<p>When I had my hysterectomy, I was told recovery would be quick because I was young, fit & otherwise healthy.</p><p>They were wrong. The surgeon made an error and despite signs of post op bleeding, discharged me & went on vacation.</p><p>When I returned to the ER, I was ignored & gaslit</p><p>They told me it was “normal” to be in more pain 8 days after surgery than on day 1 (it’s not).</p><p>They said “what do you want us to do?”</p><p>They refused to run any tests beyond basic vitals, and scolded me for wasting their time </p><p>I knew something was wrong, but I was young and hadn’t yet learned how to advocate for myself.</p><p>The pain, swelling and bruising were getting worse with each passing day. I was dizzy, listless and had no appetite.</p><p>I slept ALL the time.</p><p>I was not getting better </p><p>I did what anyone would do, I went back to the ER. Surely this time they would take me seriously?</p><p>They didn’t. They made no attempt to hide their frustration that I had returned”. They made misogynistic comments about how “sensitive” I was & that being in pain was normal </p><p>I went home feeling completely dejected and disrespected, but also starting to gaslight myself.</p><p>Maybe it wasn’t that bad. Maybe this was normal pain. Maybe I did need to suck it up.</p><p>I tried to force myself to eat and go for light walks. I tried to play through the pain.</p><p>I was vomiting everything up and frequently collapsing from fatigue.</p><p>I could not suck this up.</p><p>My boyfriend had to carry me into the ER for a third attempt to get help </p><p>They did the exact same thing. Asked what we expected them to do. Told us the pain was normal. Refused to call a consult or run tests.</p><p>Thankfully my boyfriend believed me over them. He was certain if I went home, I wouldn’t make it through the night </p><p>He refused to let them discharge me. He told them, loudly and sternly, that he was not taking me home to die. That they needed to do their jobs.</p><p>They threatened to call security but he did not back down. </p><p>Thankfully a doctor overheard him and decided to look in and see if he could calm the situation.</p><p>When he saw me, half unconscious and white as a ghost, he immediately ordered tests. He told the triage staff not to call security and to take me into a private room</p><p>It turns out my boyfriend was right. Had I gone home that night, I wouldn’t have made it to morning.</p><p>I had a massive internal bleed and a giant infected abscess which had been growing since the surgeon sent me home.</p><p>I was rushed to another hospital for emergency surgery and given 50/50 odds of survival. I spent over a month in the hospital, developed a second hospital acquired infection, and needed 11 months to fully recover. </p><p>I survived due to luck & privilege. Had my boyfriend not believed me, I wouldn’t be here. Had he not been a white man? He likely would have been removed & I would have died</p><p>This is medical misogyny. They didn’t listen because I was a woman. They thought I was being dramatic </p><p>I tell this story because of what happened to Adriana Smith. A young black woman in Georgia who tried to get medical care for severe headaches, and was dismissed and gaslit instead.</p><p>She suffered brain death at home because no one believed her. Because of misogynoir.</p><p>To make matters worse, she’s been turned into a medical experiment because she was nine weeks pregnant and living in a state with an abortion ban. She’s on organ & tissue support being treated as a human incubator.</p><p>No care when alive & forced “care” when dead </p><p>Misogyny in medicine kills. It maims. It disables and traumatizes.</p><p>Women are frequently treated as hysterical and not given the medical care they require.</p><p>We often need a man to accompany us just to be taken seriously. </p><p>It’s not right and it needs to change</p><p>I will forever deal with medical PTSD because of what I went through, but at least I survived.</p><p>Adriana wasn’t so lucky, and no one’s survival should ever be based on luck, privilege or their ability to find a man to speak for them </p><p>I survived due to luck and privilege, Adriana didn’t. </p><p>What’s worse, due to abortion bans and dangerous forced birth policies, her body is kept alive on organ and tissue support without her family’s consent. </p><p>We must do better:</p><p><a href="https://www.disabledginger.com/p/adriana-smith-misogyny-and-the-cruelty" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://www.</span><span class="ellipsis">disabledginger.com/p/adriana-s</span><span class="invisible">mith-misogyny-and-the-cruelty</span></a></p><p><a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/misogyny" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>misogyny</span></a> <a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/misogynoir" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>misogynoir</span></a> <a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/ableism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ableism</span></a> <a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/patriarchy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>patriarchy</span></a> <a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/abortion" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>abortion</span></a> <a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/mybodymychoice" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mybodymychoice</span></a> <a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/disability" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>disability</span></a> <a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/ableism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ableism</span></a> <a href="https://zeroes.ca/tags/uspol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>uspol</span></a></p>