We often discuss compassion, empathy, and kindness in the context of teamwork. But what we don’t always consider is how to be kind to ourselves. Back in 2022, I spoke to @mscottford and @andreagoulet for the @legacycoderocks podcast , about why it’s so important to be compassionate to ourselves… and I shared some techniques on how to achieve this.
You can listen here: https://legacycoderocks.libsyn.com/self-compassion-with-clare-sudbery
It was even incorporated into a dream last night where I was using it to comfort 2 small children with their anxiety. Not sure who they were since there are no small children in my life. Perhaps the girl was my younger self? 
We thanked anxiety for alerting us to danger + gave evidence we were safe.
Yesterday was an emotionally exhausting day but I listened to my body + rested. Today is meal prep.
I spoke with someone Friday evening about her trauma coping skills and have been using one of her tips to thank my anxiety. She said it seems counterintuitive but works. She said anxiety just wants you to pay attention and make sure you’re safe.
I’ve been thanking my anxiety for alerting me to danger and giving it evidence that I’m safe and it has worked the past 2 nights. 
Today feels like a good day to latibulate.
I spoke with someone last night about her trauma coping strategies. I woke up with a headache and puffy eyes from all the crying yesterday.
Normalizing using dissociation as a coping strategy and survival mechanism is one of the most compassionate things my therapist ever taught me.
It’s a common way autistic folks self regulate. I embrace it now instead of shaming myself. 
Today I will give myself compassion and loving kindness.
My trauma is apparently about more than being harmed/hurt.
My logical brain thought it had figured out the panic attack triggers. But it appears there are more triggers than I thought.
True of life, and also sometimes true in a different way of acting:
"Perhaps ironically, the good stuff is often found precisely when we let go of the maneuvers, when we surrender to the emotions that are already there."
- @TheRaDR
You’re safe
It’s over
You’re safe
It’s over
You’re safe
It’s over
taking a break from existential shitposting to say some yays
- I finally figured out what might be the last part of what I need to make my #BulletJournal situation effective
- my #SpokenWord set on Thursday went v well. lots of 
from new fans (p.s. I started by saying, "I'm sean poets. I'm yr favorite poet's favorite poet" & I'm not even sorry 
- I finally contacted a dentist for a consultation 
- got 3 household tasks checked off today
I found this incredibly helpful in terms of self-understanding and -compassion
When I get too noisy in my brain I have learnt to employ several things and it is HARD trying to be more friendly with my pain/ self but I have noticed it has helped! Which is WOW! Amazing!
* I stop. I don't need to rush.
* I rotate my shoulders back and down, to release my muscles. (I generally feel pain and tension in my shoulders, but you should listen to your body and focus on the area where you feel pain and tension.)
* I put my hand on my heart.
* I give myself the gift of calm, a moment for myself.
* I tell myself "this feeling belongs" and try not to push it away.
* I remember a loving-kindness meditation. "May I be safe. May I be well. May I be happy. May I live with ease."
* I think about the pain other people feel that is like my pain. We are connected. We feel this pain and it sucks. I want everyone to be able to notice their pain and feel better about it. I want me to be able to notice my pain and feel better about it.
The Golden Rule rules
Kindness is never wasted
Choose kindness today
Talking to ourselves and about ourselves with self-compassion #mindfulness #selfcompassion https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/radio-headspace/id1510981488?i=1000631701262
Time.
Self-Silencing Is Making Women Sick
“Be more disappointing” is not a piece of advice most people would pay money to hear, but in my therapy office, it’s often the most valuable guidance I can give.
My clients are mostly women, and nearly all of them struggle with a fear of disappointing others. Our culture rewards women for being perpetually pleasant, self-sacrificing, and emotionally in control
https://time.com/6319549/silencing-women-sick-essay/?utm_source=pocket-newtab-en-gb
